Guys often think they know all about sex. According to Tristan Taormoni and Lou Paget, two famous sex educators, there are some most common sex mistakes men make with women.
1. You knows what she wants: Not every women are the same. You can’t assume what a woman want based upon what you’ve done with other women. What worked for the last woman may not work for this person.
2. You think you have all she needs:
Some women can’t have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. But men typically think something is wrong if a woman needs a vibrator.
3. Sex feel the same for Men and Women: According to Paget, there tends to be a “huge disconnect” between men and women in the ways that sex feels good. “When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so off the charts for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn’t feeling the same way for her,” Paget says. “It couldn’t be further from the truth.” The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women. Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end. If the penis is too long, “it feels like you’re getting punched in the stomach,” Paget says. “It makes you feel nauseous.”
4. Men think they know a Woman’s anatomy: Generally, most men know what and where to find a clitoris but it doesn’t mean that they really understand it. Some women can’t [orgasm] from intercourse unless she has clitoral stimulation but for the majority of women, it’s not going to happen that way. Men also lack information about how to touch it and how sensitive it is. A touch that’s bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special, or may even be painful for someone else. Some prefer indirect stimulation. How can you find out how she likes to be touched? Try asking her.
5. Wet= Turn on: Guys sometimes get hung up if a woman doesn’t get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don’t worry about it. It is not necessary that if you are turned on, you are wet. Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it’s subject to influences like stress and medications.
6. Silence during Sex: A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what’s doing it for you and what isn’t. If you’re respectful about it, a woman who wants to please you will probably appreciate some directions. “I’m not saying push her head in your lap,” Taormino says. “I think that, ‘this is how I like it,’ is a very useful conversation to have.”
